Patrick Kirunda met his wife, Nicolate through her sister, Helen Namuddu. Patrick and Helen had been friends since 1998 but she introduced him to the family at the beginning of 2012 and he became a family friend. In May that year, Patrick began courting Nicolate. After four years of dating, he asked her to marry him. She had appreciated his character so she said yes.
In November 2016, the two got married. He says many things led him to fall in love with her, especially the persistent inner feeling and witness in his heart that God had a hand in their courtship. When he met her, Patrick, a church minister, found an attractive, beautiful, calm, honest and respectful woman. She loved God and showed it privately and publicly.
“I saw it then and I continue to see today. Her Christian worldview about marriage and life then my friendship with her family before we ever thought we will one day become husband and wife made me fall in love with her. Helen’s assurance to me that Nicolate is a good person and will be a good wife was a major reason,” he further explains.
Humour
For Nicolate, Patrick’s love for God, his genuineness, respect for her, and his sense of humour were good reasons to trust him with her heart. As they dated, the two realised that their dreams matched.
“He is such an articulate person and writes beautiful letters. His calmness in adversity is admirable. He has a lot of positive energy,” she says, adding that he has done things to profess and prove his love for her.
She appreciates asking her to marry him and being there for her since they got married by supporting her throughout her visa process to the United States of America (USA) and during the time when she was travelling abroad for the first time.
“He is patient with me in learning many things. For example, when I was learning to drive and assimilating to my new home in America. He prays for me, steps in to offer help daily, his transparency and he truly practices what he preaches,” she says.
The right person
Patrick says the idea of marrying the right person is what makes a perfect union. “Nicolate is the right person for me. During the four years we have been married, she has not done anything that would make me think otherwise. Despite my imperfections, she continues to love and support me consistently. She continues to demonstrate to me that indeed, I made the right choice,” Patrick adds.
Challenges
He observes that like any other marriage, they go through challenges that can easily steal the joy between them. He says that as Born-Again Christians, they concluded that God is the source of joy and the giver of joy so they rely on prayer, constantly asking Him to give and fill them with joy. Click to read more…
